Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Part Two – Written by THE AMAZING HUBBY!!! I'm like - a SUPER HERO - Right? Whooooosh, Here I come to SAVE THE DAY!!! 

Hi. I am Tj. I am not your normal parent. I like to have fun and make people laugh. I love my family and life. Ok that’s pretty much Part Two in a nutshell…so you can skip to the bottom or you can be a true friend and keep reading. HEY! I SAID KEEP READING! What makes me really different from a lot of people is my love for Jesus. I want him in my life and want to tell all those around me about him. What makes me different as a parent? Hmm, I have a hard time……………….. Did you guys see that movie – wait sorry different conversation – we were talking about dogs right?

Who Am I?

Theodore is my real name – I know I know – Alvin, Simon, Theodore,  BLAH BLAH BLAH  - But, MY name actually means God’s Gift. Pretty cool huh?

I believe that Jesus died for me and you and everyone in this world and rose on the third day. He is alive in me and my family and is on the move – So get on the bus and let him be your driver. I am not ashamed of My God and my life scripture is James 2:26, “ As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without WORKS is dead.”

I am the husband of the woman who wrote part one. Pretty amazing person Huh? I wouldn’t trade her if I was given anything in this world. She is my other half and only she can put up with a guy like me!

My kids are amazing and the apples of my eye.

I am super excited to be having another one running around the house. Three kids are getting me closer to a football team! J Yes my girl too! ;)

I am a DAD!

A Dad!

I have to be honest – ten years ago I didn’t see myself raising kids. None – zip – not one.Well, maybe one - but honestly that was it! I was content with a dog! No need to have little Tj’s running around. I was living the good life. Me and my dog! But then the most amazing thing happened. I had a little girl and my life CHANGED! I saw God in my child and I needed to be a man and take care of my family. This is one of the most important moments in my life. And this is when God made it official that He was going to be moving in my life!

I Love Kids
Huh? Did I say that? Wait, What were we talking about again? OH THAT'S Right - puppies! :)

What is so crazy about being a father are the ups and the downs that happen in fatherhood. Bear with me for a second. I have had days where I am just blown away by my daughter and how she prays and lifts up our whole family, or when she is running around singing – “My God’s not dead He’s surely alive.” – but then the very next day I ask her to help pick up her brothers room and it’s like I just set a bomb off. Out of nowhere either – she starts screaming and flopping like a fish. HUH? What just happened here? Where is my happy kid? This is a moment where I need a snickers bar! Or a kit kat – gimme a break – gimme a break – but I wouldn't trade it for anything – except for one of those better days again. Can we just go back to those? J And then there is my son…if you have never read “Wild at Heart” by John Eldridge … DO IT … and then think about my son. He is the exact masterpiece of God, when He gave men their adventurous nature. I have seen my son fall out of a chair – only to get right back up and climb back in the chair. He loves the outdoors and wants to go to the next adventure just as quickly as he starts the first one.

Why am I adopting?

My plan since we had our first one was to just have more and more – and I knew because of my heart that they wouldn’t all be biological children. My heart is with the youth – I had some rough roads as a kid and my late teens and I want to be a mentor. My calling is to full time ministry and I know this but I am waiting for God to put it all in place. I love my kids and I wouldn’t trade them for anything.

I can’t wait to teach our little one-to-be about my Savior Jesus Christ and show them the love and GRACE that he has shown me. When you think about grace, think about Peter. Peter was told by Jesus that he would deny Him THREE times. Peter said no, never. Yet when the time came, just as Jesus said, he did. Yet, when Jesus rose from the grave, he made sure the angel called Peter by NAME. He still loved Peter even though he had denied knowing him. That’s grace, and this helps me with my children! I also can’t wait to teach them about football, baseball, basketball, and any other sport along the way!

Why special needs?

My wife stole my line – God! He has moved my heart towards these kids. He wants us to go after these little guys. What bothered me the most was the awful stories of the institutions and how they basically reject these children. I just don’t understand this. They are just babies. They need someone to love on them. I have heard that orphanages won’t let the kids play with the toys because they don’t want to clean the toys after they are finished. It bothers me to see children who are at least 8 plus in a circle of about 7 using a baby bjorn, naked. It makes me angry when I look at a child who is 14 and weighs 14 pounds! I have people ask all the time – how can you say that God is in this when these children suffer so much? Why would God allow this to happen to these babies? What makes me angry with these questions is  the fact that God has called us to stand up for the ORPHANS AND THE WIDOWS. (James 1:27) We are the hands and feet and need to be DOING something to help. There are many ways we can do this. Jesus was asked by the Pharisees what is the most important commandment and his response was – “To love the Lord you God with all you heart, mind, and soul, and to love your neighbor.” (Matthew 22:37-39) Notice HE said AND, not or love your neighbor. He puts both of them together for a reason. I have no doubt that this is my child and God has chosen me to be the parent – just the same as my biological children!

Stay tuned for some exciting news…

As for me – if you would like to keep up with some of my blogs and my sides of some of the stories – because you know men and women have two DIFFERENT stories -  check out www.james226.blogspot.com
Have a blessed week!


  1. so excited to finally find out who is adopting this precious little guy. Been very anxious and praying hard someone would find their son. Looking forward to keeping up with your journey.

    enjoyed reading about both of you

  2. Awesome....so glad you found this little guy! Hope the process goes smoothly for you!

  3. Tj and Danielle, so happy to read part 2 today, the funny thing about this post s when I prayed for Keegan (nightly) I always prayed for a family that would lead him to Jesus!! I sometimes felt awkward, like I was being selfish that a family was a family....BUT he was listening :-) this post gave me chills and I am rejoicing that you will save this precious little boy in more than one way.....